Tuesday, March 1, 2016
Lies We've Been Told: Dress For Your "Body Type"
Hourglass. Apple. Pear. Ruler. Every woman has had her body compared to one of these things before. Rules seem to exist for women based on their weight, height, and shape but definitely not based on what brings them joy. These rules are always presented as ways "balance" the look of your body. What that really means is if you're petite, the rules will make you look taller. If you have a large bust, following the rules will minimize your bust and make you look thinner. These rules are a trap that lead every woman to feeling inadequate and like something "is wrong with them."
Depending on my weight, which fluctuates, I've been called a pear, an hourglass or a ruler. So I've fallen into the trap of buying minimizing and push up bras, heels so high I can barely walk, and lots of uncomfortable shapewear. In addition to compelling me to buy lots of impractical things, "dressing for my body type" has dissuaded me from wearing a lot of things that I loved but "aren't ideal for my body type."
Recently, I've decided to go on a mission and buy only the things I want and bring me the most joy. If I have the thought, this is awesome and I love it BUT... I stop myself. If I love it, it fits, and is well made that's enough. I don't need to project judgements onto my body and how it looks in different clothing depending on the rules. I don't need to look taller or thinner, my body is an amazing machine that gives me grace and the ability to do the things I love, with the people I love.
Here's to flouting the rules and wearing what brings you joy!
Posted by Stacy Krueger